Each and every day, girls have to struggle just to make through the day. Struggle to put our thoughts, opinions and desires in front of the society. Each and everything we do, is questioned. And we are expected to have an answer for everything. People state it outright,“the world out there, is not safe for you”. And that’s why we should wear clothes according to what society wants, we should sit elegantly, we should walk with poise, we should talk politely, we should be able to cook, and the list goes on. What kind of life is this?
A life without the freedom to be ourselves, isn’t called living.Why is that, in every situation it is us who are being imposed to not being our true self. Is this the functioning and mentality of society? I think not. I am made to believe our patriarchal society isn’t the only one to be blamed. Every time we choose to play secondary roles, without questioning it, we are passively, defining the roles, further. Women need to understand that the gateway to freedom lies in being bold. It is time that our society grasps the actual meaning of gender equality.
Women are no less human than men. Women too have dreams, dreams to live in a certain way, act in a certain way. And it is unjustified to impose restrictions on their dreams. It is no less a crime than imposing restrictions on the dreams of a man.
Having said this, I just want to tell to all the girls out there to start being your true self, and prove it to the society that it doesn’t matter if you are a daughter, a wife or a mother; you are not dependent on anyone. You have a life of your own and you can stand for yourself in situations where you need to, because the real definition of freedom is being you without anyone’s permission. That’s why it’s time for us to move on and turn the page. Be that strong girl to make it through the worst, be that fearless girl who would dare to do what she thinks is right, be that girl who is not dependent on a man and be that girl who never backs down.
We, proud Indians of the 21st century are a society of people with double standards as far as our attitude towards women is concerned. Our preaching and thoughts are different from our actions. On one side we Indians say that we practice feminism and on the other hand we find various ways to discriminate against Her. In our society, we have so much love for male child that we are killing our daughters, not physically but mentally.
Edited By - Diya Mathew