Soulmates! Or Soulmates?



The very famous king of romance, Mr Shah Rukh Khan, in his movie Om Shanti Om  said, “Agar kisi cheez ko dil se chaho, toh puri kaynaath usse tumse milane ki koshish mein lag jaati hai

Let’s look at the math of this statement.

There are seven billion people in the world and one soul mate out there, somewhere, right? Maybe, maybe not.

The odds are next to impossible. Factually speaking, the chances of lightning striking you 3 times is less than one in a 7 billion.

Research has quite clearly shown that a strong belief in destiny can actually be harmful to you and the success of your relationships. Here's why: having the mentality of believing that you've found your soulmate is related to all kinds of unhealthy thinking about your love life. It says that people who hold strong beliefs in destiny are prone to lose interest in their partner much faster than others and are likely to give up much more easily when the relationship looks a bit less rosy.

In other words: how will you react when your soul mate starts looking a little less perfect? Life is neither a Yash Chopra movie with a Switzerland dream sequence, nor is it a Nicholas Sparks book! There isn’t a happily ever after. Things don’t end with sunsets and the chirping of birds!

Nowadays, there are relationships with no individuality, with no life beyond that relationship; this is when heartbreaks become bigger than they actually are. Irrespective of how much you love someone, there is a need for balance. The whole concept of ‘2 Jism ek Jaan’ is flawed ‘The Missing Piece’ and ‘The Perfect Fit’ are things that change with time. We ourselves grow each day then how do we expect that our mates fit in the changed puzzle?

Today, more than passion, there is convenience; more than love, there is availability.

There are beautiful lies and bitter truths, there are true dreams and there are false realities. There are flings and there is forever. You never know what is coming your way. I don’t mean to diss the whole idea of soulmates, nor am I cursing love, but the ratio of 1:7 billion is quite something, isn’t it?

But then what happens to the concept of growing old together! No matter how much one defends, we all need ‘The One’: the one constant, the one you can count on. We are talking about emotions here, there is no right or wrong, our paths aren’t defined. One small turn changes everything. Everything.

This doesn’t mean we stop trying; do whatever feels right, take chances, make mistakes, fall in love; it doesn’t have to make sense to the world. Because in the end, we always regret the chances we didn’t take, the love that we didn’t fight for or the dreams that we didn’t chase.

You know what they say,‘We only live once, but if we do it right, once is enough.’ Then again, you never know, you might end up in Switzerland or get struck by lightning!